
From the book, Beyond Intent: Crossing the Threshold to Your Dreams
Your attitude, not our aptitude, will determine our altitude. ~ Zig Ziglair
We all know that a positive attitude is part of the formula for success. But what does it mean to have a positive attitude? How do you know if you really have a positive attitude? Is it simply being in a good mood and smiling? If so, what caused you to be in a good mood and smiling today?
I’ve discovered that almost everyone has a different opinion as to what attributes are involved and what it takes to have a good attitude. Maybe this variance in opinion explains why some people do not achieve positive results even though they believe they have a positive attitude. Further, some people who believe that they have a positive attitude, quite possibly may not have a positive attitude for success. More precisely, they have only part of a positive attitude.
Excellence is not a skill. It is an attitude. ~ Ralph Marston
A positive attitude is extremely important in how we approach our world and deal with our experiences each day. Having a positive attitude is imperative to being successful and manifesting our goals.
A fully functioning positive attitude comprises ten essential components. Today, we will address 2 of them:
- Willingness to look at yourself and a willingness to change.
- Being open to new ideas and concepts; there is more to life than what you see.
Each of these components plays an integral part in our overall disposition on a daily basis. Doubts and fears can create cracks in the foundation of these components. These cracks negatively impact our ability to generate positive energy, which in kind attracts positive results. We all have difficulty continually demonstrating a fully positive attitude throughout an entire day. However, if these ten processes are part of our belief system, we can fall back on them for support as needed.
Success is eighty percent attitude and twenty percent aptitude. ~ Funmi Wale-Adegbite
Let’s examine each of these components:
1. A willingness to examine our strengths and weaknesses, and willingness to change. A commitment to examine ourselves takes courage. Digging deep into our beliefs and feelings is not an easy task. The advantage is for us to understand that our experiences mirror our beliefs. If we view our surroundings with an open mind, we have the opportunity to see ourselves from a unique perspective.
However, we must be willing to recognize when a belief is not producing the desired results. We do not want to change some beliefs, such as always being honest and doing the right thing. But we have a mountain of other beliefs that we have accumulated over time. The important message is to understand that these beliefs were created by our experiences that in turn modified our beliefs, which in turn created more experiences.
When we look back we can see that we do not hold all of the same beliefs we held ten or twenty years ago. During that time period, we have grown and have modified our beliefs. Now that we understand that our life is our mirror, we can open our mind to closely examine our beliefs.
An open mind is the foundation for a positive attitude. Knowing that our world is in constant change, it is imperative we adapt and evolve right along with it. On a Universal basis, never letting our beliefs evolve is the same as telling the Universe to keep us in the same place. Consequently, there is no room for growth, and we do not move forward.
When my mother turned eighty my three siblings and I bought her a computer. She was eager to use one; typing came naturally to her, having worked in a secretary role at one point in her career. (By the way, she was also an outstanding retail sales clerk working into her eighties. One day she waited on a woman who ten years later I would meet, and who would become my wife. Yes, the Universe is always working on our behalf.)
My mom loved the computer and used AOL for email to communicate with her nine grandchildren scattered across the country. She also has nieces, nephews and cousins in various cities. She quickly learned how to write, send, and print email.
The other day, as I drove her home from her doctor after a routine checkup, she told me of the conversation she had just had with her doctor. She said, “Doctor, I trust you that you want me healthy and I listen to you when you recommend a certain prescription for me. However, I want you to know that each time you recommend a drug, I go home and search the Internet to read about all of the side effects of each ingredient in the drug.”
That is amazing! She is surfing the net. In addition, she called me recently, from her computer to my computer using Skype, and we talked and used the video capability as well! Oh, and by the way, my mom is now ninety-three. A positive attitude is all about adapting and evolving.
2. Being open to new ideas and concepts. When we are open to new ideas and concepts, we are willing to view our word differently. There is always something new to learn about life. An open mind is another pivotal piece to having a positive attitude. There is a saying that in life there is nothing as permanent as change. We must be willing to consider new approaches to push through challenges in order to grow. When we grow and learn, we then achieve our goals. Once we achieve goals we find inner happiness.
A bad attitude is like a flat tire. You aren’t going to get anywhere until you change it. ~ Author Unknown
Most people do not succeed in life because they give up when their first or second effort fails. Successful people, and those possessing a positive attitude, learn from what did not work and try again. And if that approach does not work, they look for new approaches and try again. And again. Successful people probably fail more than people who give up. These people fail more because of their belief in being open to new methodology to accomplish their goals. We set ourselves up for failure by continuing the same approach while hoping for different results. This mindset is known as the perfect definition of insanity. We demonstrate a positive attitude by keeping an open mind to meeting new people and experiencing new events.
Keeping an open mind includes ending relationships and moving on to new ones. The same is true with experiences, such as ending employment with a company or moving to another city or state. It is natural for us to feel some remorse concerning the separation. We may no longer see old friends. In the case of a special relationship, we have the burden of moving on with hurt or sadness in our heart.
Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened. ~ Dr. Seuss
Although it is very challenging, in times such as these, we must look forward to the new relationships and experiences that are coming our direction. Always remember to respect and appreciate what was experienced. At the same time, when the time comes to move on, keep an open mind that something new and special awaits.
Our positive energy of an open mind signals the Universe to continue bringing us wonderful new opportunities for relationships and knowledge. Alternately, by not changing our approaches and beliefs, we signal to the Universe to keep us in a status-quo mode. This status-quo mode includes nothing changing, and hence no movement forward toward success.
– This exerpt from the book Beyond Intent: Crossing the Threshold to Your Dreams Available on Amazon at http://tinyurl.com/7m88zym
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