What makes a positive attitude? These 10 components

Positive

We often hear that having a positive attitude is the main ingredient for success. But what does it mean to have a positive attitude? How do you know if you really have a positive attitude? Is it simply being in a good mood and smiling?

I’ve discovered there are 10 key components that comprise having a positive attitude. When we fully embrace a positive attitude all 10 components are intertwined. All components seem to blend together effortlessly as we move through our day with a positive attitude. The components are:

1. A willingness to examine our strengths and weaknesses, and willingness to change.

An open mind is the foundation for a positive attitude. Knowing that our world is in constant change, it is imperative we adapt and evolve right along with it.  On a Universal basis, never letting our beliefs evolve is the same as telling the Universe to keep us in the same place. Consequently, there is no room for growth, and we do not move forward.

A commitment to examine ourselves takes courage. When you are willing to view your strengths and weaknesses in an attempt to build a better you, a positive view of your future takes hold within you. You set goals to achieve, you examine what does not work and what does work and move forward. Continually transforming into a better version of ourselves grows our positive attitude.

2. Being open to new ideas and concepts.

When we are open to new ideas and concepts, we are willing to view our world differently. There is always something new to learn about life. There is a saying that in life there is nothing as permanent as change.  We must be willing to consider new approaches to push through challenges in order to grow.  When we grow and learn, we then achieve our goals. Once we achieve goals we find inner happiness.

Most people do not succeed in life because they give up when their first or second effort fails. Successful people, and those possessing a positive attitude, learn from what did not work and try again. And if that approach does not work, they look for new approaches and try again. Successful people probably fail more than people who give up because of their belief in being open to new methodology to accomplish their goals.

Keeping an open mind includes ending relationships and moving on to new ones. The same is true with experiences, such as ending employment with a company or moving to another city or state.

Our positive energy of an open mind signals the Universe to continue bringing us wonderful new opportunities for relationships and knowledge.

3. Possessing the will and courage to address our fears.

Facing our fears is often our greatest challenge. By creating negative images and scary scenarios, our minds keep us focused on fear and what we can’t achieve. In doing so, our minds create mountains that we believe are impossible to climb. Yet when we actually turn and face our fear, we discover that the challenge was much less than we anticipated. Those overwhelming mind-created images of how difficult and emotionally challenging the task would be quickly melt away once we move through our fear.

We have all faced our fears at some point in our life. It may have been the first day at a new school, that key interview that landed our first job, taking a chance on saying hello that started a wonderful relationship, trying our hand at a hobby, or simply daring to try something new no matter how small it may have seemed at the time.

When we face our fear we are pushing past what we believe we know and move into the unknown, out of our comfort zone with the belief something better awaits.

4. Believing God wants you to have abundance and achieve your goals.

Having a positive attitude includes believing wealth and abundance are within our reach. Besides wealth, abundance includes knowledge, the quality of relationships, health, and a feeling of inner peace.

To achieve our goals implies that we believe God (or whatever you consider a higher power) wants us to succeed and obtain abundance.  God desires that we are able to experience the joy that is acquired by having abundance. At times we will incur setbacks on our path to obtaining our desires. By embracing these challenges, we increase our knowledge and ability to ultimately reach our goals and realize abundance.

God wants everyone to receive and enjoy as much abundance as possible. We are at our best when we can experience and create the total richness of life in every way and share it with the world.

5. Having faith that you, God, and the Universe create your reality.

An important requirement in having a positive attitude relates to faith. This faith is about having faith in you, God, and the Universe to work collectively to create a wonderful reality. Creating those wonderful experiences that you will see in your mirror have their foundation in faith.

When we awake each morning to take on the day, we do so with faith in the potential of a new day. When we awake with faith, we believe that today can and will be different from yesterday. We believe that even in some small way, we will make one step forward today. We have faith that we are able to create the change that moves us toward our goal.

In addition, part of faith is hope.  A positive attitude implies having hope that today will be better than yesterday, or at least as positive as yesterday. We desire to hope that we can surmount our challenges. Our mindset is to believe that God and the Universe will be there to help us in our efforts to grow and learn. We have hope and faith that we will be led to the right information and in the right direction to help us learn and achieve our goals.

6. Believing you can impact the world.

Each of us brings special talents and abilities to the world in a different combination than any of the other 7 billion people in it.  Your unique special skills, talents, abilities and expertise are in a perfect combination that only you can use to impact the world. You are here to impact the world in your own extraordinary style.

Every time we speak and especially when we act, we have an impact on those around us. The more love, knowledge, expertise and kindness we share, the greater the impact we have on those around us.

All positive words and actions are powerful. Saying hello to a neighbor or holding a door open for someone, or picking up something that someone dropped, are demonstrations of a positive attitude

Always remember you make a difference.

7. Believing that life is fun and to be experienced.

A fundamental component of having a positive attitude is in believing that life is fun and in engaging in different experiences. We can truly experience and understand all that life provides only by interacting with other people. We can learn an extensive amount from the physical earth and all living creatures.

The best environment for us to grow and experiences ourselves is through our connections and intermingling with other people.

Engaging in life produces opportunities for us to feel the wonderful emotions of joy, love, gratitude, exhilaration, anticipation, laughter, and so much more. When we feel these emotions, we know we are alive.

We will stumble and fall along the way. But the happiness that comes with experiencing every wonder life has to offer is beyond comparison. And in the end, life and a positive attitude is all about being happy.

8. Believing that there is goodness and value in everyone.

A wonderful component of a positive attitude is to believe that there is good in all people. We can believe that each day the world becomes a better place for everyone. When we believe that there is good in all people, we have a sense of being connected to everyone and every living thing in the Universe.

As we look for the good in other people, our minds focus on the goodness in our life. By continuing to focus on the positive, we fill ourselves with positive energy. This positive energy helps create more positive experiences in our life.

Each of us has our own physical body. This separateness creates the appearance that we as humans and animals are not connected. Yet, we are all spiritually connected, and we feel the pain and joy of anyone and everyone in the world. We share knowledge on a spiritual and Universal plane that can occur only if we are connected.

When we look for the goodness in everyone, we also find the goodness in every experience. We appreciate how far we have come, where we are, and what lies ahead.

9. A willingness to be yourself and believe in yourself.

A positive attitude incorporates a willingness to show the world our true self. When we decide to stand up for a cause, an idea or a belief that may go against the majority, we are willing to show the world our true self. There can be an opportunity when we decide to follow our passion and live our dream, although many may tell us that following this path is too risky. Taking this chance, or leap of faith, is demonstrating willingness to show the world exactly who we are.

A positive attitude comes with being happy who we are. We do not spend time attempting to imitate others; rather we continually to grow and be the best we can be.

A willingness to be yourself infers a willingness to believe in yourself. Believing in yourself states you are comfortable with who and what you are. We all make mistakes, and when you can love yourself despite your mistakes, your positive energy will flow and glow.

10. Believing that loves conquers all.

There is nothing as powerful in the Universe as love. Love conquers everything. Love is who we are at our very core. The very essence of every living creature is love.

Demonstrating love all around us radiates God through us.  Only when we are loved and share love are we closest to God.

Love gets demonstrated in a multitude of behaviors. We can express love through a warm smile, a gentle hug, listening intently, showing compassion, or just being there for someone. There are hundreds of methods to display love and none is more powerful than any other. Simply expressing love radiates to the soul of those around us, giving them hope and faith.

The most powerful method to demonstrate a positive attitude is through our expression of love for all living creatures.

With these 10 components in your possession you are now ready to have a positive attitude every day and achieve your goals.

~ Excerpt from the book: Beyond Intent: Crossing the Threshold to Your Dreams

 

Pay It forward and Thank You backward

 

Bearing Gifts

A good business friend of mine loves to reference a scene from the movie “The Mexican” where Julia Roberts screams from the window to Brad Pitt, “It’s all about you!”

When in a job search it is human nature to not only feel it is all about us, but feel the urgency to make it work for us now.  Although there are millions of people unemployed everyone’s specific circumstances are different. Therefore, we feel as if our situation is unique and because of its uniqueness, it must be resolved immediately.

When we face any challenge in our life it is very natural from a human behavior perspective to lock in on the challenge, almost with tunnel vision. Every waking minute is used thinking about this challenge accompanied by a long list of emotions leaving us with only one constant thought: We must do something as quick as possible to remove this pain and frustration of being unemployed.

Our reaction to all of this frantic and complex mental energy and exertion is the desire to overcome this problem immediately. We set out as good students to learn everything we can, diagnosing the issue in hopes of quickly coming to a resolution. During this activity we become sponges, soaking up every bit of information and ideas from everyone and everywhere.  We hope to be able to condense the information and put together the right formula to instantly land that job offer. Our urgency and push is to be relieved of the anxiety, stress and frustration that goes with being unemployed.

In our haste to gather this information, we may forget the very fundamental principles involved in building long lasting personal relationships, confidence, gratitude, appreciation, the power of putting others first:

Pay it forward, and Thank You backward.

Most everyone has heard of the concept of paying it forward. Paying it forward is in essence, passing on the good deed someone did for you. You in turn now do a favor for someone else. This method is never more important than when in a job search. Why? Because just as I alluded to earlier, becoming self-focused is extremely natural when in a job search and it can work severely to your disadvantage. For most people, there is nothing more important that landing a job for all of the obvious reasons. 

However, the more you focus on yourself, the less you may focus on others.  Often one of the biggest mistakes job seekers makes is to be so immersed in their own plight that they lose interest in helping those around them, paying it forward and saying thank you backward. 

Yet, there actually is a magical result that occurs when we focus our attention on others. Why? When we focus our attention on others, and truly seek to find ways to help them, we not only feel great in the process, but our self-esteem rises as we recognize our value in the world. This increase is self-esteem and self-confidence is not lost in helping someone. We carry that self-confidence into our next meeting with a new connection, the next email we send, the next smile and handshake we deliver and of course, in our next interview.  In addition, paying it forward opens you up to receive, yes, receive, because when you give help you will find more help will come to you. Hoarding actually by its nature is that of constriction and contradiction – the exact opposite effect you might have attempted to generate.

At the same time, a thank you backward – thanking someone who helped you so you can then pay it forward on to someone else is just as vital in a job search process. You again recognize and are grateful for someone taking the time to help you. Be absolutely sure you follow up with an email or even a phone call specifically thanking that person for any help or support you were provided. If you met in person, did you buy your new networking connection a cup of coffee? If they paid for yours, take the time to mail them a gift card as a special way to thank them for taking the time out of their busy schedule to help you. Do you think you will be remembered?

Taking the time out of your busy search to specifically thank someone who might have taken the time to send you an email checking on you, providing emotional support or describing recommendations is just the right thing to do. Taking the time to say thank you says much about you, that this job search is not “All about you”.  Paying it forward is important, but when you say thank you to someone in words or actions, it is perceived as something special by the recipient. Saying or taking action to provide a thank you demonstrates your character.

One of the unique benefits of a job search is the wonderful people met along the way. Some of these relationships will last many years, and continue to provide support and assistance in many ways.  As you radiate the real you in all directions, more people will see your value.  Your value is seen at its best when you pay it forward and thank you backward.

Toto, we’re not in Kansas anymore

Wizard of Oz

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Most likely you recall the movie “The Wizard of Oz” where Dorothy, after being transported via a tornado to another world says to her dog “We’re not in Kansas anymore.” Dorothy quickly learns that the rules and what was normal that she learned growing up in Kansas no longer applied in this new land.

When unemployed it is very easy to feel the same. Being unemployed is like no other situation you will experience.  When employed, you made decisions on projects, the timing of when those projects would be completed, when to hold meetings, when to make a recommendation to your boss or peers, and much more.  You were in control.

Now when unemployed you can’t make anyone hire you. There is so much less control, and most of the time you will feel as you don’t have any control over the process. You find people do not return a call or email quickly as they did when you were employed. People give more vague responses compared to when you were employed. It is quite easy to feel as if you are not in Kansas anymore.

The communication process is so much different when you are unemployed. You are now on the outside looking in and it is often so difficult to get anyone’s attention. And once you do, you can be sure they are thinking of 5 other things during your conversation or reading your email.

At the same time, much of your success does depend not only on your actions, but what you believe about the world, the job search process and your own abilities. Take pride in your accomplishments and go confidently through the process with your extensive experience and expertise.

In the movie, Dorothy meets up with 3 other characters all looking for something to fulfill their dream and even their self-esteem.  They did learn much along the way, and at the same time their experiences and challenges brought the best out of them!

In the end they learned as Dorothy did, that she could return home at any time – she had the power within. The key is to see the power and ability, learn and discover how to access this power and ability, and finally how to use it to its maximum effectiveness.

In a job search as with Dorothy, we are so close to the challenge that we don’t see how to overcome the challenge, and in our case, land that job offer. The key to landing that job offer you so greatly desire does not come from the latest LinkedIn technique; rather, being aware of your human behavior and perception of your situation and those around you. Your mindset of how you approach your job search, for example, which career path to choose, what you focus your time on each day, and how well you interact and communicate with others at all times, are critical factors in your job search success.

We often can’t see some of the barriers we are creating which is why in a job search it is extremely valuable to seek out someone who can provide independent perspective giving you honest feedback and clarity.  Frequently much of our stress and indecision on what steps to take next in our search comes from our own fear of rejection, lack of self-esteem and fear of the unknown.

As we know, the biggest and greatest fear of being unemployed is not knowing when it is going to end.  Yet, you can overcome these fears and barriers and be just like Dorothy, discovering she had the power within to land that next job – which is how we feel when we have returned home.  Struggling in a specific part of your job search? Check out the 4 NEW sections of the Unique Keys program broken into the area you want to address: Interviewing, Recruiters & Networking, Commons job search mistakes, and Mental keys of success!  Click here to learn more http://garyspinell.com/40keysebooks/

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