The Nuance of Not Asking “What If?”
There may be times when we look back at our life wishing we could change what has happened. We believe if we could only go back in time, we would manage a relationship differently, put more effort into the job to get a promotion that never manifested, or speak our mind to someone who hurt us. Remember that what we focus on becomes our reality. If we constantly focus on the past, we’re dooming ourselves to repeat it, and keeping success from happening.
The nuance is that by focusing on the past,
we demonstrate our belief that the future
does not hold the success we hope to acquire.
By looking back and wanting to change our past, we acknowledge to God and the Universe that the future cannot be better than our past. As always, we manifest what we believe.
Many years ago I was employed at a large public company, and I believed I was ready for a promotion. I interviewed with a smaller company regarding a position that would be a promotion. This new company made me an offer that I declined. I had an intuitive feeling that for some unknown reason the position and company did not present the right opportunity. During the next year I remained in my current position. Throughout that year I frequently thought about what would have transpired if I had accepted that position.
Changes occurred at my company and after a year I was promoted, not once, but twice within a short time. In addition, the company at which I interviewed struggled financially and eventually dissolved. Fortunately, I had made the correct decision, but only after a year did I understand it was unnecessary for me to be looking back.
It is always important to remember that you are here in this lifetime to learn, to experience, and to explore. That means seeing and experiencing events from both sides. No matter what the required learning is, you will create that opportunity in your life. Consequently, if you believe you could go back in time and turn left instead of right, chose one relationship over another, choose one job over another, one career or place to live over another, you will find you still encounter the same experiences, giving you the opportunity to address those key beliefs.
The experiences may not be identical to those which you experience now, but they will take on the same form, bringing the same issues in front of you. You may know someone who often changes jobs, complaining that it’s always his or her boss that is the problem. No amount of changing jobs will ever stop the same issues from arising. After all, the common denominator of all of these events in your life is you.


Dear Mr. Gary,
I really thankful for you sharing such nice article. I am 100% agree. We attract what we keep in our mind and it is sure if we keep in our mind pur past experience, we are going to create same events in our life.
You have given words to what all experience in their lives but so many are not aware of this.
We are grateful to you for sharing this truth.
Pratik Patel
Comment by Pratik Patel on July 8, 2012 at 11:02 pm